VIGIL PLANNING

Considering your wishes and establishing a clear plan for your actual death *and communicating that plan before you can no longer speak for yourself* is a kind and loving thing to do for your loved ones—it offers them the confidence to know that they are meaningfully contributing to your passage out of this life.

3 hours, vigil planning: $300

Vigil planning is a preparatory step that allows you to die on your own terms supported by the people you want to have with you in the end. There are many ways to do this, and it can be entirely customized to your preferences.

What is most comfortable for you—sun shining through your windows, or the calm of drawn curtains? Is there music that you wish to listen to? Do you have scents that bring you comfort? Do you want to be surrounded by flowers, photographs of loved ones, particular works of art? Are there scriptures or other texts that you would like read to you? Who do you want there with you? 

In my experience, a vigil plan is something that is in equal measure a hard thing to do and a profound gift to those that will be with you at the end of your life. This is an exceptionally difficult conversation for most families to handle on their own. End of Life Doulas are trained both to guide you through this planning process, and to help you communicate your wishes clearly to your loved ones and your care team. We also provide material support to ensure things are arranged the way you wish.